Today we drove to Maryville to meet with Pam, the director of our agency. We had an informational, informal type of meeting. She gave us an overview of what happens if they match us with a birth family. The wide range of situations that arise and the wide variety of birthmothers.
Apparently we are an extremely attractive couple (she told us this like 5 times!) and are they age most birth mothers like to place their child with. Right now they have about 12 couples looking to adopt, but several have some restrictions on children (only girls, only African American, etc). We are a bit more open so that helps!
We will start making a profile book that is like a birthmother letter, but bigger and in a book form. Planning on using iLife to create a digital book and have it printed. It will be a great keepsake too!
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Meeting with Agency
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Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Visit 2 of 3
We met with Lettie again last night, and now have only 1 visit left! Thankfully she actually walked through the house this time, and she thought everything was beautiful. We talked a little more about child care and about each other, but nothing crazy! She had Kyle & Kristen's and Melody & Jeff's letters, which she thought were just terrific! Thanks guys!
She comes back on March 11th, but will email us the draft of the homestudy before then so we can look over it. It will be 8-10 pages of typed "stuff." Jeez!
Next up is tomorrow when we meet with Pam at the agency.
Guessing we will be labeled as "paper pregnant" by the end of March which is soooo exciting. Because basically at that time we could have a baby any day after that!
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Thursday, February 19, 2009
Homestudy Visit 1 of 3
Our first homestudy visit was last night! We have 2 more to complete, with the next one next Tuesday and the last one probably 2 weeks after that.
Lettie, our social worker, was so nice. We were halfway through the visit and I kept thinking, "when are we going to start?". It was more of a conversation with a friend about camping, running, a little about growing up, and the only direct question was about discipline. She didn't even go through the house, which was very clean I might add!
The biggest annoyance to us were the dogs! Of course they acted afool, but she likes dogs and assured us they weren't bothering her. At least next week they will still be tired from being at Camp Ruff-n-More this weekend!
The last visit will be a little ways out so she can write up most of her report and get the reference letters some fabulous people wrote from Pam. We will get copies of the homestudy then to proof. After that she sends it to Pam to make sure all the required material is in place and then it is sent back to Lettie for her signature and to be notarized. We will get 3 originals in the mail.
So I think in the mean time we are going to start sending out our letters to friends and family.
Lettie said the last couple she worked with had their first homestudy visit, found a birthmother who was almost due, got their homestudy in their hands, and their baby was born the next day! If only it worked out that easy!
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Monday, February 16, 2009
Scheduled!
First homestudy visit is Wednesday night at 6:00! Lettie called on Sunday to schedule it. Should be about an hour and then we have 2 more visits (1 a week). I am guessing it will take her more time to prepare the actual homestudy. We'll definitely find out much more Wed!
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Friday, February 13, 2009
Friday the 13th...
Just a little sad that we didn't get a call to schedule our homestudy. Still have to remember that it is still possible to get done by the end of the month! Just ready to get the ball really rolling. There are several people at work who have relatives that work with fostering and they wanted to take copies of the birthmother letter. So yay!
I think Friday the 13th has been a good day, a long one, but oh well! It is at least Friday!
Plus side is tomorrow is Valentine's Day and we are going for sushi!
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Monday, February 9, 2009
Making some more progress
We got a few forms that weren't on the online application to fill out on Saturday. Today we got fingerprinted. I apparently am not very good at getting fingerprinted and it took twice as long as David! I guess a lack of experience in getting fingerprinted is probably a good thing.
The reference letters have also been sent according to the agency, so those out there receiving them better take care of things on the front end!
We are supposed to hear from our social worker this week to schedule our homestudy! So I am thinking my goal of having it complete by the end of Feb really might be feasible. And my house will get a top to bottom cleaning which is always good. Now all we need to do is find some sedatives to give the dogs when she comes over!
Off to enjoy the rest of this gorgeous weather with a nice long run!
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Thursday, February 5, 2009
Birthmother letter
This is our birthmother letter for any potential birthmoms to read. The real letter has a few pictures of us in it, and I am sure most of you will have a real copy of it soon enough. We are trying to cut it down to 2 pages and so far haven't been that successful.
Anyway happy reading....
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us. Although we cannot begin to understand the path that has brought you to us, we do know that you must be a caring, brave, and loving person because you are trying to ensure your child is given a lifetime of love, security, and happiness.
If you decide to place your child with us, we will provide a happy home where he or she will feel, safe, secure and loved unconditionally. We will always talk about you in a positive light.
By taking a few minutes to read through our profile, we hope that you can get a glimpse of what our life is like, but most importantly what your child's life will be like if you decide to place him or her with us.
Our Story
Our love began in a high school; David was a senior football player ready to go to college and Sarah was a sophomore basketball player involved in many school activities. We dated for a couple of years, but we needed time to mature and find out what we wanted out of life. One Halloween we reconnected, and instantly knew that we were meant to be together, and two years later we were married. Once we both completed degrees, Sarah a doctorate in Audiology and David a degree in engineering, we purchased our house. We have built a solid marriage and life with our 2 dogs, Maggie and Tilly.
We both have careers we love. David is an engineer for a hearing aid company and Sarah is an audiologist. We both work for companies Sarah’s father has created, and we even work in the same building! Our jobs give us financial stability, but we also have great flexibility in our working schedules.
Traveling is a big part of our lives. We have been to many places in the United States, Thailand, Germany, Sweden, and places in the Caribbean. There are still many places we cannot wait to see, and can’t wait to show our children the world.
We have a camper and try to go camping as often as possible. We love to hike, mountain bike, and do anything on the water. We live in the mountains and have 3 lakes within 30 minutes of our house. Sarah loves running, reading, and cooking (as long as David does the dishes). David recently discovered Adventure Racing, which involves a combination of running, biking, and canoeing.
Our Home
We live in an established neighborhood in the middle of our small town. Our house is the white house on the hill at the end of a cul-de-sac. We live very close to schools, parks, a pool, and lots of neighborhood activities.
About Sarah
I truly believe that without Sarah in my life I would not be the person I am today.
Sarah is the most sincere and caring person I know. Friends and family both rely on her when they are in need and she has been their rock even through her own down times. We have a mutual friend who is a single parent raising two young girls. The last year has been especially rough for her and the way Sarah has taken it upon herself to make sure she does everything she can to ease her burdens has truly inspired me. Seeing her interact with these two girls as well as all of our friend's and family's children has definitely left me looking forward to creating a family of our own.
In addition to family and friends, work is another aspect of Sarah's life she put her entire heart into. After seven years of dedication to continuing her education she still says the most satisfying part of the entire journey is seeing the look on a patients face when they hear something they may have never heard before. She goes out of her way to make sure she makes a connection with every person that comes into her office even to the extent of driving a patient home after a visit so they don't have to wait in the cold for the bus.
I couldn't possibly share with you all the things that make me the luckiest man in the world. All I can hope is to spend the rest of my life sharing them with a child of our own.
About David
Everyone’s first impression of David is he is the funny guy. He loves telling jokes or doing anything to get a smile on someone’s face. This is evident in his love for karaoke; you have to wrestle the microphone away from him. His sensitivity and compassion for family and friends is a trait I haven’t seen in many people. He wears his heart on his sleeve. Whether it is helping a friend move, laying floor in my mom’s house, figuring out a problem at work, or tearing up the first time he told me he loved me, David’s passion for life is evident.
Aside from being the life of the party, David can discuss important business with people all over the world. He is very intelligent and the best problem solver I know.
Sports have always been apart of David’s life. He loves passing football in the yard, shooting hoops, playing golf, or watching any sport on television. I know he can’t wait to coach any sport if our child chooses to play sports.
All of our friends call David the “baby whisperer.” My best friends little girls always want to see their “Dabid.” They have been known to demand to see him and they listen to him whenever he tells them to do anything. Another friends little boy reaches out for David as soon as he can see David. I love seeing David with children, and I remember the first time seeing David feed a baby then offer to change the diaper. I had always known David would be a fantastic father, but that sealed the deal.
Our Family & Friends
We are so lucky to have our families living less than 15 minutes away. We see Sarah’s father daily at the office, and David has a weekly golf match with him most of the year. Sarah’s mother works for the local university. We go to basketball games with her and she tries to teach us about landscaping. David’s mother is our go to dog sitter when we can’t take them with us on trips. All of our parents are looking forward to spoiling their first grandchild. Sarah has a younger sister that lives less than a mile away with her dog. This will be the first grandchild for both of our families and they can’t wait to spoil their grandchild to death. We love being with our families at random cookouts, sporting events, plays, dinner parties, and holidays.
Everyday we think how blessed we are to have a close-knit group of friends. Several of our friends have children and we love to baby-sit for them.
Thank you for taking time to read about our lives and for considering us. We would love to talk or meet with you if you choose to answer any questions you may have about your child’s future or us. Please know that our thoughts are with you as you make your decision.
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Tuesday, February 3, 2009
It has only been 1 day..
We know that the application was delivered at 11:42 this morning to the agency. Not at all like I tracked it all morning or anything. I feel like we have already been waiting for weeks.
Just hoping that we get our homestudy scheduled and completed by the end of the month. Not sure if that is realistic or not.
It is starting to become a little fun looking at baby stuff and thinking of names. Stuff that a month ago was absolutely NO fun.
Just waiting for the phone to ring to say our application was approved, and hoping that soon the phone will be ringing saying we have been matched!
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Monday, February 2, 2009
Application in the mail!
We finally got all the parts for the adoption application and it is in the mail! Just hoping that everything was completed correctly and it will be approved by next week. Then we can schedule our homestudy!
I spoke with Pam at Harmony (our agency) on the phone and we will meet with her just to go over the process through the agency. She said we can go ahead with the homestudy part since we are not that close to them and she might even be in JC one day soon.
What a great start to February!!!
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